TheSystematicSlut

YULE AKASHIC RECORDS READINGS

Opening up pre-booking for Yule Readings.

This is a personal Akashic Records reading including a general channeled message for Yule (in December) and channeled message for each month of the coming year (2023).

This is meant as a guide to help you move through whatever challenges, celebrations, or ebbs and flows you face in the year to come.

I’m opening up 6 spots! Readings will be done during the Yule energy (Dec 21-Jan 1).

Re-Introduction Time: Hi, My Name's Dixie!

Hello friends! 

For a while I hung out in this space under my community name, Dixie. And, I absolutely do still go by that name. In fact, it's how a lot of my friends through the k!nk scene know me, and I keep it that way not because I don't want to share myself with them but because that name honours a part of myself that feels absolutely safe in those spaces. 

In any case, you'll have noticed some changes around here and as always, I'm going to info-dump on you the "wh...

Tell me about your first kiss

I laid in the dark room, arms straight at my sides staring up at the ceiling. I was overly conscious of every movement, and every sound . . . My stomach turned in anticipation and I felt saliva gurgle as it settled in my throat. I held my breath: Oh my god, did he hear that?

Embarrassment crept across my face. Thankfully he couldn’t see it.

I heard the sheets rustle as my friend moved off the bed and I traced her steps as she walked out the door and shut i...

Weekend Reflections (10/10/22)

This weekend I fell in love.

As I walked through a city whose pavement knows my steps, I felt whole.

I felt a calm within my soul that I have not experienced for a very long time.

The first was in Toronto when I landed on the city streets and amidst the hustle and bustle I felt a quiet and stillness I had not ever experienced.

But it wasn’t quite the same then, no. I think it was a foreshadowing; I had been given a glimps...

The Joys (*sarcasm*) of Tinder (oh and P.S. SW IS WORK)

In addition to my writing on here and my fulltime job, I also do consulting and create soul-aligned branding for sexually liberated womxn.

This includes professions like:

• Dance instructors

• Healers

• and Professional Companions

In my tinder bio, I mention this (without specifying who I do work for). Well, today I matched with someone and received a message saying “So are you a pimp? Joking, kind of”.

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Mood: Mind Your Own Uterus

So much writing to come . . . Waiting to be back at my computer and to share all the beautiful experiences I’ve had away in the mountains 🏔

Summertime Update

This little kitten has been Hella busy and also has some very exciting updates.

But first: the pink elephant in the room. You may have noticed I have not been active on my k!nkstagram, and am a lot less responsive/engaged with messages. Truthfully, the content creation (visual) just is not drawing me in lately and whatever I do, I need to do from a place of alignment and turn on. Creativity can’t be forced, for me. It comes up in different ways and right now, photos and cut...

Kitty time 🐈

Sometimes Mr. C is just too cute but then I realize I can’t share the pics on my regular social media 😅

Also yes I have ridiculous tan lines right now and I kinda like it.

First ever backpacking trip! 🎒 And life updates . . .

This past weekend I escaped with my B to the forest for both of our’s first ever backpacking trip! It was the exact pause I needed with everything that’s been going on in life lately and I’m so proud of us for doing the thing!

There was a ton of laughter, some tense moments due to exhaustion from the heat (but we got through), making new friends around the camp fire who thankfully helped us replenish our water supply, and some trepidations encounters with loose rocks, m...

Status Update: Busy Kitten

Hi friends 🙋🏻‍♀️

I’ve been a little MIA and I realize I owe you a couple chapters of that story I was writing BUT truthfully, I’ve had such busy days lately that creativity and I are not so hand in hand at the moment. I promise though, the crinkly adventures of the cutest cat sitter ever will return. I’m excited to see how it ends 💦

In the meantime, I thought I’d just checkin and let you know what’s been going on in my wor...

Staycation Part 2: A Mostly Fictitious Story

I was still avoiding eye contact - Partially because I was wrapped up in the thought I had just mentioned, and partially because I was shy. I'd never shared these thoughts with someone before and I was worried he might not enjoy them as much as I did . . . I was actually nervous to enjoy them as much as I thought I could . .  . I'd let myself explore them before on my own, but I had always stopped myself before I got too carried away. 

I let out a slight sigh, reassuring mysel...

Staycation Part 1: A Mostly Fictitious Story

I've been such a busy little kitten over the last while and have had next to no time to decompress so when the day finally came for the week long staycation I had been planning with my friend Mike I was so excited! I counted down the minutes until I finished my big life responsibilities and then instantly began to pack all of the things for our week of adventures.

Of course, I had the usual clothes, snacks, my cutest PJs. Then there was my stuffed penguin, pacifier (okay, I brought two...

First time Momma (MDLB)

Last night I got to be momma to the absolute cutest bby boy in the world and it was a deeply restorative experience. 

It started with him coming over and we had dinner and just got comfortable, then I walked with him into the bedroom and I did my special folding technique for his dip before laying him down to put it on him. When I finished and he sat up I noticed him shying away a bit before he reached out his arms asking for a hug. It was a beautiful invitation for me to support h...

Unfiltered + Vulnerable - Body Dysmorphia

Content note: Body dysmorphia/Fitness/Weight loss

So, this isn't along the usual lines of what I share here or maybe it is. I always say I need to be able to share all of me, and today, this is where I'm at. So, if you will meet me here and help hold me, you are welcome. If you can't, that is also okay and I understand. This is not an easy topic, or an easy experience. But it is my truth right here and now, and I need to share on it. 

Last night...

Why do I call you "Daddy"?

TLDR: I used to think it was super weird, then someone explained it to me, and then I liked it. 

You've heard me talk about "daddy" or my friend named B. What you may or may not have known is he is the first person I ever explored DDLG and ABDL with, ever. What you also may be quite surprised to find out is that before entering this world and playing with him, I was super hesitant (read: I was that person on the outside judging and thinking what these people were doing was probably...

Age Play + Regression: What's the Difference?

In my last post I talked about keeping aspects of little space to myself, because I need them and they are an integral part of my self-care and actually what I am currently working on with my therapist. I didn't really get to be a kid, for a lot of different reasons, and so allowing my grown-up self to let go, and letting my inner child come through to be seen, and explore and play has been a necessary part of self-reconciliation. It's a process, and sometimes it is effing hard but it is so, ...

When Self-Care Becomes Performative

I love being seen, being watched, feeling another's gaze upon my skin when I am feeling my most vulnerable but also totally secure in my body . . . When I feel the exact way I know they see me being. That moment of pure turn-on at the point of connection . . . be it physical, energetic, or from afar over a shared experience . . . I love it so much, that I decided to start playing that way with all of...

The Problems with a Niche K!nk

So, I honestly did not know what to title this one but it's a thing I've been thinking about for a while, and the more I think about it the more I push away from producing content. And thus, it's time to talk about it.

To start, y'all may know there is a difference between a k!nk and a f3tish. In short: Some k!nks may be a f3tish, but not all and not for every person. 

I did a quick google and 2022-01-09 22:25:26 +0000 UTC View Post

Pandemic Musings of an Immunocompromised Kitten

The last 24 hours were rough.

Details aren't super important because the specifics really aren't the thing I'm processing but this particular situation brought to the surface all the things I have been suppressing for the last two years (since the pandemic started).

Contrary to what some might think - and a lot of people in my opinion hide behind - it's not fear.

I'm not afraid of this.

What I am afraid of and truthfully ...

K!nky Q&A: A Guide to Solo Wax Play

Some of you may recall I have shared on my Instagram about "Daddy". This person has been a super important part of my journey into k!nk and liberation of self and access to pleasure. We are not together - nor have we ever been in a committed, romantic relationship sense of the term. We are both poly, not looking for a relationship, and were curious to explore together (along with general hangouts and adventures). Play par...

K!nky Story Time with Dixie

I remember the day I first experienced the rush of build up before the release that comes just a second after you think you can't take it anymore. I was sitting in the chair facing the mirror, holding direct eye contact with myself. He ran his fingers through my hair and held just tight enough . . . Just such that I could move my head a little but I couldn't unlock from my own eyes. I sat there, taking a deep breath and falling into deep surrender. 

I felt my shoulders relax and a ...

The Unexpected Codependency

Today I want to talk about the upside-down side of "codependency". It's that side where you feel you have to take care of yourself to guard someone else and protect the security (read: false sense of) in a relationship. It's the times where you step back from your truth or stating your needs because of the nature of a relationship, the duration of one, etc. 

When I very first started my instagram account  I...

My Responsibility as a Sub

I hear people talk a lot about how the sub holds all the power (true), and how one can only be as dominant as their sub is willing to submit (also true). The Dom has a job to create an environment of safety and security, to know their Sub, to intuit their desires and limits and help create ways they can feel safe expressing these . . . and also to trust the Sub to express these in...

What’s Dixie Doing?

Bath time 🛀 for this lil kitten (not all cats are scared of water 😸). Friday I saw my trainer, rode a horse for an hour and the Saturday I worked at the barn for four hours so I am sore and in need of some self care.

Currently reading: Return of the Trickster by Eden Robinson

P.S. become my bestie for more bathtub pics 😽😻

Neurodivergence & the Birthday Struggle

I've never much liked birthdays. I never really knew why, but I knew that when they came up is when I felt the most alone in life - Like I was on the outside of a thick pane of glass watching everyone else play the coolest game ever and I was the only one who had not been given the instructions. 

It wasn't the getting older, though. That has never really phased me . . . something about time being a man-made construct I didn't buy into, or whatever. What it was, was expectation I wa...

Gettin' to Know Dixie - Ten Fun Facts About Me!

1. I realized this year that I am on the autism spectrum (ASD) and also have been living with ADHD my entire life. 

2. When I was eight years old I got hit with a golf club (accident) under my left eye and had to get stitches, but no one ever hardly notices because I have a dimple in the exact same location. 

3. I read almost exclusively Science Fiction and until recently have h...

Consent Isn't Just for S*x

In an online community I facilitate, we have a community guideline that reads: Consent is. 

Full f*cking stop. 

Perhaps you've heard the phrase "consent is s*xy" before? I have, and while I appreciate the intent the impact can be highly problematic. Here's why: 

• This is often taken to imply that the only level of consent is a "yes"; 
• It implicitly shames those whose consent level is a "no", 'cus then you're just not that s*xy; 
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Who is Lil Kitten Dixie?

Y'a know it's funny . . . As I wrote the title I realized that even though she is me, I am very much still getting to know her. I had this conversation with a friend recently on the topic of gender, and how someone they knew was seemingly changing their mind quite frequently. I responded with the query: Are they changing their mind or are they simply getting to know themselves more and more each day? 

I think that's it: Our experience of self isn't meant to be linear. We don't come...